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As a parent of three teens (ages 16, 14, and 12), I’m long past the days of diapers and terrible twos (and threes), so it’s pretty crazy to hear about how some of the newer moms and dads are raising their kids. Like, I just read an article about a British singer named Stacey Solomon who JUST slept the first night in NINE years without one of her children in her bed. (She also still takes baths with them, but that’s another story altogether.) Let’s stick with the bedtime routine here. Btw, the story is RIGHT HERE if you’re interested.
Point is, this mom has had her oldest sleeping in the bed with her for nine years. Now, that may not seem like alot to you, but to me, it is. And what’s worse, that’s NINE YEARS that this little boy has been kept in his little warm and cozy comfort zone. Admittedly, one of the hardest things to do as a parent is to take our children out of their comfort zone, and let them make mistakes, learn, and grow. But isn’t that the point? Don’t we ALL need to have the freedom to make mistakes, learn from them, and grow? I know I do. Some of THE most rewarding times in my life were times when I stepped out of my comfort zone.
How about the first time I spoke to a crowd using my own material (and not a script). Or the time, I was asked to teach a group of prisoners in Belize while on a mission trip? Those were exhilarating experiences! And that just two examples from the top of my bald head. Each one of those times (and every time I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone), I’ve grown in confidence, ability, and readiness to step out of my comfort zone the NEXT time. I firmly believe that each new and different experience or challenge in life sets us up for the next new experience or challenge. So, if we don’t ever learn to step out of our comfort zones, we never learn to take on new experiences. That leaves us with a life that’s not NEARLY as fulfilling as if we HAD embraced those new, uncomfortable experiences.
I know you don’t want that kind of life for yourself, or for your children. I know I don’t.
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