After spending a weekend helping to “coach” couples at a marriage retreat, the big takeaway for me is “Love always bends toward your spouse”. How do you resolve your differences? You bend toward your mate. How do you “take the high road” and “be the bigger person”? You bend toward your spouse.. How do you show understanding to your spouse? You bend to them. How do you forgive? You bend toward your mate.
Try to remember your wedding vows. Chances are they went something like this:
“I take you to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part.”
How to you promise to be there for your spouse, for better or for worse? By bending toward them.
How are you there for them, for richer or for poorer? You BEND toward them.
How are you there for your mate in sickness and in health? By BENDING TOWARD them.
How can you love and cherish them until death do you part? BY BENDING TOWARD THEM.
Ephesians 5:21 tells the husband and wife to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”. How do you do that? Yep, by bending toward one another
See, love ALWAYS bends toward the other person. Take any great story of sacrifice. Try the ULTIMATE story of sacrifice. The picture of Christ on the cross, beaten and wounded, scarred and bleeding to death. Through all of his suffering, from silently enduring shame and ridicule to the merciless torture inflicted on him by Roman soldiers, to the walk to the cross, all the way to his final breath….his body was literally bent. The greatest display of love ever shown left with us a picture we should always remember in marriage and in any loving relationship.
Love always bends toward the other person.
Here’s a great example of that from Hollywood. This is from “The Family Man” starring Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni. Here, Tea’s character confronts her husband about his decision to move.